Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Talking to a seven-year-old

Q: My mom is waiting for me outside at the playground.

A:I know. I have to leave in 5 minutes too, let’s finish up.

(Focus boy, don’t you know the pleasure of a task well done?)

Q: Is your mom waiting for you?

A: No, I’m just going home.

(My mom is always with me now. No more waiting.)

Q: What about your mom? Don’t you have to do something for her?

A: I don’t have to do what she says anymore.

(Technically true. On the other hand I hear her voice at every turn.)

Q: Why not?

A: I just don’t

(25-year-olds don’t generally go home to their mom every night. Even if my mom were alive, she wouldn’t be waiting for me outside. Or maybe she would. Maybe I wouldn’t even be here.)

Q: What are you gonna do?

A: I have to meet someone to talk about something.

(I have to get tea with an 18-year-old whose father, a man I’ve known my whole life and who cared for my mother as she died, is dying. I want desperately to give him guidance, but what can I give him? I want to call him a friend, but I haven’t spoke to him in any meaningful way since he was 10 and I was 17. I’ll go there under the premise of decorating the vessel his father will be cremated in, really just wanting to talk and give him a hug.

Q: Oh. Okay let’s finish.

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